You may be wondering to yourself. "Wow. if setting goals are so powerful in helping you succeed, then why doesn't everybody set goals?
When we grew up, we all had a big dreams and goals about future. We dreamed about being doctors, firemen, movie stars and heroes. Unfortunately, as we grew up many of us gave up contiuning to think about our goals and we stopped setting new ones.
3 main reasons
Low Self-Esteem
Self-esteem is a feeling of confidence and self worth. When I was in poly I really do not what I want. And I think that's the reason why I'm in poly because I did not have goals in life at that point. "I can't make it" & "I'm a loser" is a common thing that I say to myself especially when I failed in exams or got scolding from teachers. Now at this current point of my life my goals are beginning to set light. At least I can say I'm in the process!
Now remember this, just like in the movie matrix. This world is built to make you believe in things that are not true. You have tremendous potential within you and that if others can, so can you! You! reading this, Yes YOU deserve to have the very besy in life. Once you undertand this, you will begin to set high goals for yourself.
Some people do not believe in Goals
They do not know the results it can bring in setting goals. They will say "cannot la! last time set before also cannot achieve...". Its not that setting goals did not work for them but rather they did not work hard enough towards their goals or because they used the wrong strategy and gave up halfway.
Setting goals will not bring you sucess. It's not like u set your goals and then you begin to watch tv, read magazines, play computer games etc... then one fine day u wake up, BANG! you become successful! WTF man. It's not like that, instead it MUST be backed up with lots of action and undying determination.
Fear of Failure & Embarrassment
Sometimes we are afraid. We set goals like scoring DIST for all the modules this semester. And ppl laugh at us when we tell them. And what happens when we really did not achieved it? Ppl continue to make a joke out of us.
Many of my friends are successful students. What do they have in common? They set goals and do not believe in failure. When they failed, they do not look at it as failure, Instead, they look at it as an outcome they can learn from. As a result they will not feel bad abt it. They know that as long as they learn something and keep taking action, they will eventually reach their goals.
If ppl do laugh at your goals, use it to empower and motivate yourself even more!
I not a millionaire or CEO of some company. Maybe u will say who the f*** are you to teach me how to be successful or you may think I'm more successful than you now.
Well if u go for Adam Khoo's workship, he is going to say the same thing.
I can't convince you now, but when you are at the highest level you know that all these is true. And I'm sure all the successful people out there would agree with me.
Wednesday, January 9, 2008
Tuesday, January 8, 2008
Dare to Dream: The power of Goals
I don't know how many people are going read this but i gonna write it anywae. It's going to be about setting goals and hopefully those who really read these will benefit from it. Anywae it's just a sneak preview of Adam Khoo's Superkids workshop.
SUCESS HAPPENS NOT BY CHANCE, BUT BY DESIGN
Believe it or not setting goals is the 1st and most important step you must take in the whole process of succeeding both in school and in life. It definitely has an impact on my life to a great extent. Whether you believe it or not you got to try it for yourself to see.
Believe it or not everything u have achieved and accomplished so far did not happen by chance. Instead, it happened because you dreamed it and designed it clearly in your mind consciously or sub-consciously.
Let me end off by sharing an article.
WHAT DO TIGER WOODS, STEVEN SPEILBERG AND BILL CLINTON HAVE IN COMMON?
If you look at many of the most famous people around, you will also notice that their success came because they had dared to dream about it at an early stage. They too understand that everything happens by design.
Tiger Woods,32, is currently the number one golf professional in the world. (He had already achieved the No.1 ranking at age 24). At 24, he has already accomplised more in golf than anyone else in history. Did you know that he achieved all this because at the age of 8, he set his goals to beat all the top golfers and be number one?
At the age of 12, Steven Spielberg set his goal to be a top movie director when he grew up. At the age of 36, he became one of the most successful filmmakers in history. He directed 4 out of the 10 ten highest grossing films in history, winning numberous Academy Awards. What allowed him to achieve such phenomenal success at such a young age? Again, it was because he had understood the power of goals.
Bill Clinton, the former President of the United States had, as a young boy growing up as the son of a poor widow in a small farm estate, set his ambition of becoming the President of the United States when he grew up. His teachers, relatives and friends said, 'Get readl kid!' But like Woods and Spielberg, he dared envisage the future in his mind and made it into a reality.
It is never too late to set goals. "What do you really want in life?" this is the untimate question u are going to ask yourself from time to time.
Easy said, then why doesn't everybody set goals?
If you really really want to know do leave a msg on the tagboard so that i blog abt it.
SUCESS HAPPENS NOT BY CHANCE, BUT BY DESIGN
Believe it or not setting goals is the 1st and most important step you must take in the whole process of succeeding both in school and in life. It definitely has an impact on my life to a great extent. Whether you believe it or not you got to try it for yourself to see.
Believe it or not everything u have achieved and accomplished so far did not happen by chance. Instead, it happened because you dreamed it and designed it clearly in your mind consciously or sub-consciously.
Let me end off by sharing an article.
WHAT DO TIGER WOODS, STEVEN SPEILBERG AND BILL CLINTON HAVE IN COMMON?
If you look at many of the most famous people around, you will also notice that their success came because they had dared to dream about it at an early stage. They too understand that everything happens by design.
Tiger Woods,32, is currently the number one golf professional in the world. (He had already achieved the No.1 ranking at age 24). At 24, he has already accomplised more in golf than anyone else in history. Did you know that he achieved all this because at the age of 8, he set his goals to beat all the top golfers and be number one?
At the age of 12, Steven Spielberg set his goal to be a top movie director when he grew up. At the age of 36, he became one of the most successful filmmakers in history. He directed 4 out of the 10 ten highest grossing films in history, winning numberous Academy Awards. What allowed him to achieve such phenomenal success at such a young age? Again, it was because he had understood the power of goals.
Bill Clinton, the former President of the United States had, as a young boy growing up as the son of a poor widow in a small farm estate, set his ambition of becoming the President of the United States when he grew up. His teachers, relatives and friends said, 'Get readl kid!' But like Woods and Spielberg, he dared envisage the future in his mind and made it into a reality.
It is never too late to set goals. "What do you really want in life?" this is the untimate question u are going to ask yourself from time to time.
Easy said, then why doesn't everybody set goals?
If you really really want to know do leave a msg on the tagboard so that i blog abt it.
Tuesday, December 11, 2007
On relationships
Relationship-of all kinds-are like sand held in your hand. Held loosely, with an
open hand, the sand remains where it is. The minute you close your hand and
squeeze tightly to hold on, the sand trickles through your fingers.
You may hold on to some of it, but most will be spilled. A relationship is like that. Held loosely, with respect and freedom for the other person, it is likely
to remain intact. But hold too tightly, too possessively, and the relationship slips away and is lost.
Thought of the day:
When you are sick, do u seek healing or the Healer?
open hand, the sand remains where it is. The minute you close your hand and
squeeze tightly to hold on, the sand trickles through your fingers.
You may hold on to some of it, but most will be spilled. A relationship is like that. Held loosely, with respect and freedom for the other person, it is likely
to remain intact. But hold too tightly, too possessively, and the relationship slips away and is lost.
Thought of the day:
When you are sick, do u seek healing or the Healer?
Sunday, September 30, 2007
Sigh
Having the wrong combination of people coming together to play and sing music is really bad. Having no frens in church sucks ever more. And sighing is good. It lets out all the negative stuff from your body and the wind juz blows it away.
Friday, August 3, 2007
You have come a long way if u are one of them!!
We survived with mothers who had no maids
We had no childproof locks on toliet bowls, medicine bottles, doors or cabinets.
When we rode our bikes, we had no helmets.
Riding in the back of a pirate taxi was a special treat.
We drank water from the tap and not from a bottle.
We would spend hours under the bright sun flying kites, without worrying about UV rays giving us cancer or aging skin.
We went to catch spiders without worries of Aedes mosquitoes.
We took candy, fizzy drinks, shaved ice with syrup(and salt added to cola was remedy for fever), but we weren't overweight because we were always outside playing.
We did not have Playstations, Xbox, cable TV, DVD movies, no sound surround, no internet.
The idea of a parent bailing us if we broke the law was unheard of. Parents sided with the law.
Yet, we produced some of the best risk-takers and problem solvers.
Cheers to those who pulled thru from the '50s to '80s!
We had no childproof locks on toliet bowls, medicine bottles, doors or cabinets.
When we rode our bikes, we had no helmets.
Riding in the back of a pirate taxi was a special treat.
We drank water from the tap and not from a bottle.
We would spend hours under the bright sun flying kites, without worrying about UV rays giving us cancer or aging skin.
We went to catch spiders without worries of Aedes mosquitoes.
We took candy, fizzy drinks, shaved ice with syrup(and salt added to cola was remedy for fever), but we weren't overweight because we were always outside playing.
We did not have Playstations, Xbox, cable TV, DVD movies, no sound surround, no internet.
The idea of a parent bailing us if we broke the law was unheard of. Parents sided with the law.
Yet, we produced some of the best risk-takers and problem solvers.
Cheers to those who pulled thru from the '50s to '80s!
Friday, June 29, 2007
Life is for living, live it!
There are moments in life when u miss someone so much,
u just want to pick them from your dreams & hug them for real.
When the door of happiness closes, another opens.
But often, we look so long at the closed door,
we don't see the one which has been open to us.
Don't go for looks, they can deceive.
Don't go for wealth, it can fade away.
Go for someone who makes u smile because a smile can make a dark day bright.
Dream what u want to dream, go where u want to go.
Be who u want to be because you have only one life & one chance to do
the things u want to do.
The brightest future will always be based on a forgotten past.
You can't go forward until u let go of your past failures & heartaches.
Live ur life so that at the end,
you're the one who is smiling & everyone around you is crying.
Don't count the years - count the memories
Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take,
but by the moments that take our breath away!
u just want to pick them from your dreams & hug them for real.
When the door of happiness closes, another opens.
But often, we look so long at the closed door,
we don't see the one which has been open to us.
Don't go for looks, they can deceive.
Don't go for wealth, it can fade away.
Go for someone who makes u smile because a smile can make a dark day bright.
Dream what u want to dream, go where u want to go.
Be who u want to be because you have only one life & one chance to do
the things u want to do.
The brightest future will always be based on a forgotten past.
You can't go forward until u let go of your past failures & heartaches.
Live ur life so that at the end,
you're the one who is smiling & everyone around you is crying.
Don't count the years - count the memories
Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take,
but by the moments that take our breath away!
Friday, May 11, 2007
When is enough, enough?
At what point is enough enough? I have so many blessings – less than a lot of people, but more than a lot of people. But that shouldn't matter… it doesn't matter what other people have… at least it shouldn't. What should matter, is do I have what I need? Or even want? There's that old saying I love so much – "We buy things we do not want, with money we do not have, to impress people we do not like." I know everyone in the world knows how that feels, if they can admit it.
The same concept goes for everything I have… my car, my home, my friends, family…. Faith… everything. When have we had enough food? Where is that line? Where do we draw it? From what I can see, most people don't. Ever. We have clothes, but we need better clothes… a house but we need a bigger house. I have a nice car, but I need a nicer one – I have a sweet and beautiful girl, but I need a sweeter and more beautiful one – I have a good body but I need a better one – I have a lot of fame but I need more… even down to, I'm a good Christian but I need to be a better one, or I'm a smart person but I need to be smarter. I've had a few drinks but I need more. I've got a good steak but it could be cooked better, or fresher. Does it ever stop?
When is a hot shower enough? When is warm shelter or clean water enough? When is a person who loves you enough, no matter how rich or charming or stunningly beautiful they are? I know people who are wealthy beyond what most people could imagine, dating girls that should be on the cover of magazines, driving cars that most people only see in movies, but they still dream of more stuff, popularity, respect, and hotter girls, no matter how much they already have. So when is enough enough? For most people, never. And that's why we're all so miserable.
I'm happy. Deep down, I really am. But I still feel constant pressure to strive for more…
to "live up to my potential." What does that mean? It's like I'm being pushed to want what I don't have… or to want that they don't have. I'm happy… when did happiness stop being enough? I need to remind myself – I'm happy. And how can we really want more than being happy? Is there more than happiness? I don't think so. As Cheryl Crow says, "It's not having what you want, it's wanting what you have." The more money I make, the more I spend. The more fame I get, the more cocky I am. When people all love me, I want them to love me more. Where does it stop? Does it stop? Not unless you make it stop. Not unless you can look where you are right now and say, "I have enough." And you do have enough… unless you're dying of thirst of course, and if you are, you're a complete moron for reading all this – go find some water.
am just wanting people to know – I know you want more, and while there is a certain amount of happiness in 'more', it's never enough.All of a sudden, I'm realizing, I could easily spend the rest of my life striving for more… and how miserable that would be. It's like we only get enough to remind us that we can have more. I don't want to live like that. I don't want to live the rest of my life un-happy with what I have.
If you're reading this, you're probably in a warm place, had a good meal today, took a warm shower, and have people who love you… probably even have your own computer. That's enough. Really. That's more than enough. Because if you're not happy with that, you could be Bill Gates wondering how you could turn your money into more. Not saying that he does, because I don't know him and maybe he doesn't, but if you can't appreciate the warm shower you took this morning, you and I are both in for a very long life of un-happiness.
Let me add, I don't think money is bad at all. (or power, same thing) It's a great thing - it usually reflects hard work and wisdom. The love of it is the root of all evil, and the love of it is what will make people miserable. Hard work and wisdom are very fulfilling, and if they pay off financially, that's wonderful. But the money itself is what will corrupt if the hard work and wisdom that built it are lost. That aside, everything I said above stands.
The same concept goes for everything I have… my car, my home, my friends, family…. Faith… everything. When have we had enough food? Where is that line? Where do we draw it? From what I can see, most people don't. Ever. We have clothes, but we need better clothes… a house but we need a bigger house. I have a nice car, but I need a nicer one – I have a sweet and beautiful girl, but I need a sweeter and more beautiful one – I have a good body but I need a better one – I have a lot of fame but I need more… even down to, I'm a good Christian but I need to be a better one, or I'm a smart person but I need to be smarter. I've had a few drinks but I need more. I've got a good steak but it could be cooked better, or fresher. Does it ever stop?
When is a hot shower enough? When is warm shelter or clean water enough? When is a person who loves you enough, no matter how rich or charming or stunningly beautiful they are? I know people who are wealthy beyond what most people could imagine, dating girls that should be on the cover of magazines, driving cars that most people only see in movies, but they still dream of more stuff, popularity, respect, and hotter girls, no matter how much they already have. So when is enough enough? For most people, never. And that's why we're all so miserable.
I'm happy. Deep down, I really am. But I still feel constant pressure to strive for more…
to "live up to my potential." What does that mean? It's like I'm being pushed to want what I don't have… or to want that they don't have. I'm happy… when did happiness stop being enough? I need to remind myself – I'm happy. And how can we really want more than being happy? Is there more than happiness? I don't think so. As Cheryl Crow says, "It's not having what you want, it's wanting what you have." The more money I make, the more I spend. The more fame I get, the more cocky I am. When people all love me, I want them to love me more. Where does it stop? Does it stop? Not unless you make it stop. Not unless you can look where you are right now and say, "I have enough." And you do have enough… unless you're dying of thirst of course, and if you are, you're a complete moron for reading all this – go find some water.
am just wanting people to know – I know you want more, and while there is a certain amount of happiness in 'more', it's never enough.All of a sudden, I'm realizing, I could easily spend the rest of my life striving for more… and how miserable that would be. It's like we only get enough to remind us that we can have more. I don't want to live like that. I don't want to live the rest of my life un-happy with what I have.
If you're reading this, you're probably in a warm place, had a good meal today, took a warm shower, and have people who love you… probably even have your own computer. That's enough. Really. That's more than enough. Because if you're not happy with that, you could be Bill Gates wondering how you could turn your money into more. Not saying that he does, because I don't know him and maybe he doesn't, but if you can't appreciate the warm shower you took this morning, you and I are both in for a very long life of un-happiness.
Let me add, I don't think money is bad at all. (or power, same thing) It's a great thing - it usually reflects hard work and wisdom. The love of it is the root of all evil, and the love of it is what will make people miserable. Hard work and wisdom are very fulfilling, and if they pay off financially, that's wonderful. But the money itself is what will corrupt if the hard work and wisdom that built it are lost. That aside, everything I said above stands.
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